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Hvordan forkæler du dig selv? / How do you pamper yourself?

22.4.2017

Jeg har lige haft en luksusweekend. Nu tænker du nok noget med lækker mad og kropsbehandlinger og duftlys. Niks. Det var i et mødelokale med undervisning fra morgen til aften. Det var simpelt hen den lækreste hjernemassage. Oven i købet sammen med en masse andre mennesker, der også svælgede i hjernemassagen. Rendyrket luksus.

 

Det var en time-out i hverdagen, hvor jeg ville forkæle mig selv. Og det er rigtig vigtigt at huske at gøre det.

 

Hvis hverdagen går op i vask af underbukser og børnefødselsdage, hvor skal du så få din energi og din opladning fra? Hvornår er du så DIG.

 

Hvis du ikke er vant til sådan at gøre noget for dig selv, så er det vigtigt, at du for det første bare prøver det. For det andet gør det rigtige - at du finder noget, der giver mening for dig lige der, hvor du er nu. Det kan være noget, hvor du vælger at bruge nogen timer for dig selv, hvor du laver noget, som bare giver mening for dig og som måske er forrygende upraktisk eller egoistisk (og hvordan kan det være egoistisk at nære sig selv?). Hvis du er småbørnsmor, så kan det være en aften med en god veninde. Hvis du er vant til at skulle træffe beslutninger hele dagen og høre på andres ævl og kævl, så kan det være et par timer med at slå græs lige er sagen. Hvad det skal være, kan du kun selv vide.

 

I min coaching-praksis taler jeg jævnligt med mennesker, der hele tiden gør noget for andre. Og nu er de så kørt trætte, og mangler motivation. Når jeg så spørger ind til dem, så viser det sig, at de alt for længe har gjort for lidt for sig selv og alt for meget for nogen andre. Ofte fordi de synes, at man ikke må være egoistisk. Og her tænker jeg, at man godt kunne revidere opfattelsen af egoisme. Det er fint nok at sørge for, at man selv bliver næret og stimuleret, for så har man mere energi og kan mere I hverdagen. Men er det egoisme? Er det ikke bare at passe på produktionsapparatet? Når man er ude at flyve, og de gennemgår sikkerhedsinstruktionerne, så får man altid at vide, at man skal sørge for at sætte iltmasken på sig selv først. For før man gør det, kan man ikke hjælpe andre. Tænk lige over den.

 

Og hvad skal der så til for at du omsætter det til dit eget liv?

 

 

How do you pamper yourself?
 

I just had a wonderful weekend of luxury.  Now you're probably thinking about gourmet food, massages and scented candles. But no. I was in a classroom for two whole days with teaching and training. It was the most luxurious brain massage with a lot of other people who loved it as much as I did. Pure luxury.

 

It was a time-out where I could pamper myself and doing that is very important.

 

If every day is a logistic juggle between laundry and children's birthdays where are you supposed to get your energy from? Where will you recharge your batteries? When will you be YOU.

 

If you're not used to doing things for yourself as such then it's important that your first of all try and secondly try and find that which is right for you at this point in life. It might be taking a few hours out to yourself where you spend your time which is meaningful just for you. It may be highly impractical or selfish (but how can it be selfish if it nourishes you?). If you have little children, it could a night out with a good friend. If you're used to making decisions all day long or listening to others bickering, a couple of hours mowing the lawn could be just the thing. Whatever it is is all up to to you.

 

In my coaching practice I frequently talk to people who are constantly doing things for other people. And by now they're worn out and lack motivation. Then when I ask them it turns out that for too long they've been doing too little for themselves and too much for others. Often because they think that anything else would be selfish. And this is where I think that they may want to change the definition of selfish. There's nothing wrong with taking care of being nourished and mentally stimulated because that gives you energy and the ability to do more in your life. But is that to be selfish? Isn't just taking care of the machinery that is you? Think about this: When you're flying and they go through the safety instructions, they always tell you to make sure that your oxygen mask is securely fastened before you can help others. You need oxygen first. Think about that message.

 

So what does it take for you to apply that in your life?

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