IKEA-kommode = kærlighed / IKEA dresser = love

Generelt er det sådan, at mennesker har fem forskellige primære måder at vise og modtage kærlighed på. Det har den amerikanske præst Gary Chapman fundet ud af og beskrevet. De fem kærlighedssprog er i korthed

Det er rigtig godt i et parforhold at kende hinandens kærlighedssprog. Hvis den ene giver gaver hele tiden – og den anden forventer tid og nærvær, ja så går de skævt af hinanden, og begge parter kan blive utilfredse. Hvis de nu hver især kender deres eget kærlighedssprog og kan fortælle, hvad de brug for af partneren, så har de starten på både god forståelse og gode samtaler. 

Sæt nu, jeg var irriteret over, at min mand samlede reol, hvis det vigtigste for mig var, at han fortalte mig, at han elskede mig. Sæt nu, jeg ikke kunne se, at det var præcist, hvad han gjorde ved at samle kommoden for mig. Kender du din partners kærlighedssprog? Kender du dit eget? 

Du kan læse mere om de fem kærlighedssprog her: Dansk: www.kærlighedssprog.dk   

IKEA dresser = love

The other day, my husband and I bought a large dresser from IKEA. As most of you know, you only do that if you really have to. And true to form, it was really difficult to put together (partly because some people find following instructions difficult – me for instance). This meant that my husband assembled it. And now it’s all finished.

During his troubles with it, I realized that the dresser was a visible manifestation of his love for me. He wouldn’t have bought it and he wouldn’t have bought that particular model if it was all left up to him. But because I wanted it – and because he likes to make me happy – we bought it. And he assembled it.  

The fact that I realized that the dresser is a very physical evidence of his love to me means that whenever I look at it in the future, I’ll look at it with love.

You see, it so happens that one of my husband’s way of showing love is through acts of service for me and for us. Fortunately, I both know and recognise this. That’s why I’m able to appreciate it when he does things for me or for us. 

In general, people have one of five different ways of showing and receiving love. This has been discovered and described by the American pastor Dr. Gary Chapman. In short, the five languages of love are:

In a relationship it’s very beneficial to know each other’s language of love. If one person is touching the other all the time and the other is expecting quality time, well, then they may misunderstand each other and be unhappy. However, if both of them know their particular language of love and are able to say what they need from their partner then they have the beginning of both a good understanding of each other and some very good conversations lined up. 

What if I was really irritated that my husband was assembling that dresser when all I wanted was for him to tell me that he loved me. What if I couldn’t see that that was exactly what he was doing by assembling that dresser?

Do you know your partner’s language of love? Do you know you own? Read more about the five languages of love here:  

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